By Jaime Sevilla, M.Th., M.PM

Thank you is a phrase that expresses the feeling of gratitude before an action or gesture of someone towards us, it is the expression that makes us feel pleased toward that person who has given us his/her help, it is the means by which a communication link is established deeper and different from the other, it is the expression that gives confidence in others, it is the phrase that unites me to the person who receives it.

Giving thanks is the reflection of an educated person, who values and appreciates the efforts of others, who knows that although many times the other party is not obliged to perform an action. He does so without expecting anything in return; that is why his/her only reward is this phrase that makes him/her feel pleased and happy: thank you.

There are some people who find it difficult to say thank you, because perhaps they think it may be synonymous with weakness or because they find difficulties in relating to others. But when they manage to do it the first time, they feel the difference; a new way of seeing people emerges in them, they learn to do it with a grateful attitude.
In some environments, it is so common to use thanks, which is often done simply by mere commitment; when this happens, the thanks we pronounce does not have the same impact as when it is done from the bottom of the heart, in a deeper way, not the superficial one used in those other environments.

Many times, our way of saying thanks may not be reflected in the verbal expression itself, either because of shyness, because of the unusual habit, because they were never taught, etc.

But if you can appreciate the grateful attitude in some action, we do towards the person who did us a favor, and it is not that the other person is waiting for something in return, it is simply our grateful attitude that moves us to perform such an action.

It is very beautiful to see this type of communication without words, especially when it is provided in people of different races or cultures; since the different manifestations of thanks are so diverse, that it makes us not only show our gratitude, but also learn from others all those cultural expressions of their races and environments.

Personally, I think that to whom we first have to say thanks is to God, the Creator, who has given us the wonderful gift of life; then with our close families, our spouses, children, brothers, etc. Sometimes, it is thought that because they are our parents or our children who have the obligation to help us to do things, and perhaps it is true, but how different it is when we hear them say thank you. In these cases, the action of helping acquires another meaning, because in that expression we can see that our parents, our children, value the effort we make.

When it comes to a spouse, with much more reason, but you also have to be careful, because sometimes we offer a thanks only in the form of lip service. NO, it must arise from the depths of our being, because in that thank you, we are transmitting our appreciation to the efforts that the other has made to help us and make us feel good. Let us be grateful. It is not hard for us to say thank you, but if for some reason we find it difficult to express it in words, then let us seek an action that communicates that gratitude to others.

Jerusalem Where the Temple of Solomon and the Center of the Jewish Religion Were Erected