The truth loses its objectivity if it is not seen through the eyes of Jesus and his vision of the Kingdom of God. Many times, there are people who affirm with certain conviction certain situations of others, without realizing that they can be very wrong since no matter how much we want to affirm a blunt truth, it will always be subject to our human limitations.
We must be very cautious when talking about something or someone, especially being aware that the information that comes to us from third parties almost always comes inflated or distorted; and, if the person is not there to clarify those situations, the most healthy and Christian thing to do is to stop making imaginary comments and wait for that person to be present so as not to commit the grave sin of thought and of speech about an absent person in the conversation or meeting.
To lend oneself to discuss some matter of someone absent is to commit a crime; since, not only do we make foolhardy judgments about that person, but we also involve those present who are also accomplices of those imaginary “truths” that are discussed; and this not only leads us to commit a personal sin, but also a group one.
How much does James have in his letter when he says that through our tongue the fire of hell enters into our whole being, since with it we bless God and Father; and, with it, we curse our brothers and sisters created in the image and likeness of God (Cfr. James 3:5-10).
The most human and Christian thing that we should do when a neighbor, a member of work or community, etc., begins to criticize or judge negatively someone who is absent, is to leave the table and say, “I did not participate in this action,” or have the courage to correct the one who is speaking, telling him that it is not fair to talk about someone who is absent.
But how or when to distinguish a truth from medium to relative? When we put ourselves in the different points opposed to ours with an open mind. When we open our understanding spirit to the situations that others have lived or are living.
When we let the people involved explain their points of view or their situations that have happened or are happening. When we ask the Lord to give us His Grace to be humble and compassionate to those around us; above all, with the weakest and most marginalized.
When there is a person who, driven by courage, envy, rivalry or revenge, he begins to speak badly of another, he is definitely a devilish person; he has the spirit of evil inside him and he needs to be liberated. But everything is not there, we must be very careful, because many times that evil spirit also gets inside those people who surround it; and, this comes to produce a collective possession, much more dangerous.
Because among all those persons possessed, they are capable of committing a serious crime against the one they attack; since, now the person is not attacked by only one, but by a whole group, whether they act actively or passively.
The best way to see an objective truth is through love and compassion. The love that has its maximum expression on the cross of Calvary, whose characteristics are beautifully expressed in the First Letter to Corinthians 13:1-13.
I invite you to read and meditate with your mind and heart. And the best example of compassion is Jesus. The Gospels are full of the compassionate actions of the Master. He himself invites us when he says, “Learn from me that I am gentle and humble of heart” (cf Mt 11:29).
May our Lord Jesus Christ strengthen our baptismal grace, so that we may understand and become true disciples of his; just like that, we can be witnesses of the Truth.